I DO this ALL the TIME!
I hear someone is un-well whether they are diagnosed from a Doctor or just have serval symptoms that have become bothersome. I GO RESEARCH IT. I have a compulsion to find out what might help them manage their symptoms or elevate some suffering.
Now I am NOT a Doctor or any kind of healthcare practitioner. I just love the research.
Sometimes I do the research and I don’t even tell the person what I found. I don’t share the findings for a couple of reasons: first I just need to know and second I don’t believe they are ready to hear what I have to say. Third I am not a healthcare practitioner and I am not set up to support them through their journey.
I can offer bits of information so THEY know where to research and find the information for themselves. So why do I NOT SHARE?
“Before you heal someone ask him if he is willing to give up the things that made him sick” Hippocrates
In my 50 years, I have tried to save friends from bad relationships, help someone lose weight, solve their money issues, get fit, and given health advice. Most go back to their “old” ways. Why do they go back to their old habits, because they are not willing to give up that one thing that made them unhappy, fat, broke, weak, or sick. I can only do so much - they need to do the rest.
Don’t get me wrong I am the first person to help another out - even if you are a stranger I will do what I can. BUT NOW I KNOW to ask a couple questions first to see if I think they are ready to make real change. I always offer bits of info to get people thinking or to try something new. It is then their choice to use the information.
Recently I was chatting with a friend who told me about our mutual friend’s Mom was ill and may need surgery. Yikes! I immediately have 3 things in my head that I thought they needed to be doing. I am still doing my research; I will send my findings to my friend and she can present it to her Mom as she thinks it will be the most effective. It is too serious for me to keep the research to myself. I will give them my sources, websites, and the reasons why I think they try the things; the rest is up to them.
Teach a man to fish - research is daunting - I get it. Some find it so daunting that they can even begin. So I enjoy giving people that start and then it is up to them.
Hippocrates quote has given me clarity on how I can best serve my friends. I can offer knowledge and guidance to those that are ready to hear it.
I am here for you my friend, I will wait for you, when you are ready we can rock this out together!
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